Tuesday, May 12, 2009

1/2 birthday

Alright guys... I have another question. (Do you know how much I love having such great advice from such a variety of wonderful women. Cheesy much? I know, I must be in a good mood, who would have thunk it.) Anyway....

Here's my situation.

My son's birthday is on December 27th. Yeah, I know horrible planning, only it wasn't so much planned as it was just enjoying ourselves 9 months before. (Did I just say that?)

So birthday's are hard. We don't want to give him less at Christmas just because it's his birthday, and we don't want to skimp on his birthday either, but seriously, that's a lot of crap at one time.

So my husband suggested having his 1/2 birthday in the summer. That way he can have a party, and people actually show up. He can get gifts like bikes and stuff and not wait 6 months to ride it...

So my questions are:
1. What do we do for his real birthday. I mean, I can not let that day go by without acknowledging it.

2. Will my daughter be upset if we do his 1/2 birthday, will we have to do one for her too? Geeze, that's a lot of birthday. And her's is in August.

3. Will people think we are totally stupid for doing this? Would you go to a 1/2 birthday party and bring presents, or think," WTH? Are these people hard up for gifts or what?"

And thanks for listening to yet another one of my goofy questions.

16 comments:

Nikki B. said...

joey's bday was dec 18th. we talked about his birthday parties a little before he died, and planned to do a 1/2 birthday party, as well.

i would just do a cake on his birthday...the same thing that you do for your daughter. cuz how many times is her party on her ACTUAL birthday. we have the party, then let the kid pick what we have for dinnner and have cake again for their actual birthday.

i would also put something in the invites, if you did custom ones, or your own...saying that dec is too cold and busy, so we're celebrating the halfway point. but, way cuter and rhymier. i'm not really awake yet!

will people think you're stupid...uh, no!! you know what's stupid...trying to fit a birthday party into the christmas holidays!! one of our cousins kids' has a dec birthday...and we NEVER go to their party. it's always so hectic!! so, i thinks others would prefer it as well!!!

Paging Doctor Mommy said...

I think it's a great idea, and I think everyone would totally understand!

WPMomOf2 (jen) said...

that's agood question...i don't know. I mean one hand I totally understand the reasoning, but on the other hands other parents may not get it!?!

Alicia said...

My birthday is Christmas Day. My parents always gave me a party the week before or after. And I ALWAYS had a birthday cake ON my birthday, candles and singing and everything. They never did 1/2 birthdays. But my parents also did gifts for Easter and Valentine's. Basically, I learned to adjust. They made it very special for me and I never felt jipped.

~~Mel~~ said...

That's a real toughie! I love the 1/2 birthday idea...but then doesn't that put you smack dab in the middle of summer? Perhaps I'm doing my math wrong...wouldn't surprise me lol.

Believe me when I say that summer birthdays are hard too! Sure, you have your close family and friends that will definitely attend but when the child is school age it's hard to invite alot of kids from their class when summer vacations get in the way.

I say move his birthday all together...how about October? j/k.

Bec said...

My birthday is December 29th, and I absolutely love having my birthday that day. My parents were really good about making sure that they did the same things on my birthday that they did for my siblings, and they never even wrapped my birthday presents in Christmas paper! Growing up is was a little hard that I only got gifts in the winter, though, because I needed summer stuff, but my parents were pretty good about getting me what I needed rather than just 'wanted' so it was ok.
Alternatively, one of my friends, who was born on Christmas Day, celebrated her half birthday in June. It was very confusing and while she did love having a birthday party no where near her birthday, she resented that her 'real' birthday wasn't a bigger celebration. That may or may not have just been her attitude about it, though.
One awesome thing about having a Christmas birthday- I've never had to go to school or work on my birthday! I get to do whatever I want!

Heidi @ Tayterjaq's Rebels said...

My brother's birthday is December 15th. My mother had a party for him either a month before or a month after. It seemed to work for them.

.Keli. said...

I'm not sure I have an answer for ya on this one. But, I like Nikki's comment! Sounds like a great idea to me!

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Domestic Diva said...

It is a fabulous idea..hope you had a great Mother's Day!! xxxx me

Angela said...

I say go for it. You could do a cake for the actual birthday and hve a party for the 1/2 and do the reverse for the other to make all happy

Musings of the Mrs. said...

I don't think you can do it. My sister in law's birthday is Dec 23, and its actually great because the kids are out of school and everyone is together. Yeah, she has to wait a long time between presents, but at least she gets to celebrate on her actual day like everyone else.

Crystal said...

I have 2 kids with birthdays on Dec 28th.. yes the same day.. 4 years apart. Talk about bad planning! lol. Anyway I have had lots of people say the same thing about the summer but I decided I would rather do it the weekend after xmas anyway. Yeah it sucks but just plan ahead with gifts, make sure invites go out a month before the party so everyone has time to plan around holiday stuff and then just send a reminder email the week of the party. I wouldnt think you were crazy for doing the 1/2 birthday party at all but I personally wouldnt do it. Knowing me I would end up with 2 birthday parties, one in winter and one in summer lol causing me more headache lol. Plus in the summer its harder to invite school friends.

M said...

I think it depends on whether or not you usually travel during the holidays. If you do, then I would go for the 1/2 birthday idea as it is hard to make them feel like they have their own special day at Grandma's house over Christmas. If not, I would stick to the actual day myself. We have 2 summer birthdays and they are fun in one way, but by the end of the summer the school friends are sort of out of the picture.

Michelle said...

Interesting delimna! I'm not really sure what I would do though! It would definitely be hard to plan a bday party around his actualy bday since people will be busy around the holidays, or not even around if they go out of state. I have heard of others doing 1/2 birthday celebrations instead and I don't think that is too odd. I think if you did a major bday party for his 1/2 year (well not major, but just the regular bday party celebration) and not another one on the 27th your daughter should(hopefully!) be ok with that. For his actual day just a small celebration with family? A cake and maybe just a couple presents?

nicole said...

i think it's a GREAT idea! don't over think it just do it!

heidi said...

Hi. :-)

So, ROb's bday is December 25th which is, uhm, CHristmas Day. Growin gup he just remembers all the "Here's your birthday/Christmas present" stuff, yk? His brithday WAS Christmas so he just starte dpreteneding the whole worl dwas celebrating it, along with Jesus's Bday and they were, like, bros...yo. Anyway. SInce we've been together I do his birthday on December 24th. Christmas eve. We dont' do Christmas anywhere else..it's Rob's brithday. I make him his special dinner and we have the cake or cheesecake he asks me to make. He opens those gifts. It's HIS day.

If he were MY kid? I would hav ecelebrated his half birthday if only as a "friends" party, yk? Then he would have something seperate from Christmas.

My first Fiance (oy..big long story - never married him..thank the good Lord above) - his Birthday was december 27th and his parents ALWAYS did a half birthday celebration for him. He said he really liked that they did that for him because he felt lost with the CHristmas hoopla.

So, there ya have it. Third hand info that may or may not help you. HA!